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Mindset Is Everything: Believe and Achieve

Getting started can be so hard!  You know what you want to do and you know why, but taking the first step can be daunting. You create stories in your head of how things are and will be. These stories, combined with fear, self-doubt etc., cause paralysis and you take no action.

I’ve been wanting to run a race for a while.  But I hadn’t taken the steps to sign up and begin training.

A couple of months ago, I learned about an upcoming race and thought:

Why not now? Why not sign up for this race?  After all, it is only a 5K!

The race was a for a good a cause with the Back on My Feet (BOMF) organization. All the proceeds from the race would help provide support to BOMF’s services to improve the self-sufficiency of those experiencing homelessness.  I also looked up the weather as the time got closer and saw the high would be in the 70s!  Of course that wouldn’t be the temperature when the race started at 8 AM but this was a plus for the early part of spring (and because I’m not a fan of the cold).

I signed up.  I ran more frequently to train for the big day but I wasn’t following a formal training plan. It had been years since I ran the one-miler in high school so I knew I had to put in some work to prepare.

The Friday before the race, I went to the website to get last minute information.  That’s when I realized the race was a 5-miler and not a 5K! I had to process that…  How did I miss this before?! Did I let my wishful thinking trump the reality?! There wasn’t much I could do at that point.  I definitely wasn’t going to train for a 5-miler overnight but I still planned to participate in the race.

Mindset is Everything

I focused on my mindset. I told myself that it was better to learn about the 5-miler the day before the race versus on the day of the race. Imagine knowing you’ve reached the 5K distance but everyone is running beyond it and now you have no idea where the finish line is. I was grateful for not being in that situation.  I told myself I could complete 5 miles.  I hadn’t been training for that distance but I had previous runs around the city that were just under 5 miles.

Believe and Achieve

Race day arrived. After forgetting my headphones and going back home to get them, I arrived just in time for the race to start.  The first mile was fine.  Then we got to a steep incline.  I tried to push myself and stopped midway to walk.  Once back on leveled ground, I saw parents with strollers pass me by.  I used that as my motivation.  I couldn’t have all of them pass me! I continued to push through.  During the second half of the race, I saw a sign that said “Believe and Achieve.” This helped me finish the last two miles strong.

Here are my final stats:

  • Gun Time – 48:30
  • Chip Time – 47:14
  • Pace – 9:27
  • Placed 574 overall out of a total of 1192 runners (men and women)
  • Placed 110 out of a total of 258 women in my age group
  • Placed 283 out of a total of 706 women across all ages

My results surprised me!  Once I realized this was a 5-miler, I thought it would take me at least one hour to finish. So anything short of that was awesome!  I also googled what a “good” pace is for a 5-miler and learned that a pace in the 8:00 range is good and for a professional runner, 4:00 to 5:00 is good.  All things considering, being in the 9-minute range wasn’t terrible.  I didn’t think I had any of my running abilities left after competing in high school so many years ago!  This was when I realized that achieving anything and exploring what’s possible starts with my mindset.

What if…?

I reflected on my experience.  I accomplished something I didn’t even set out to do.  What if I did things differently and with more intention? I thought about the actions I could have taken and how that would have changed the outcome:

  • Take the race seriously – This would have been a great starting point… I would have known that I signed up for a 5-miler, not a 5K!
  • Follow a training plan – I could have easily googled and followed a formal 5-miler training plan
  • Time myself along the way – I didn’t set a timer at the beginning of the race so I had no real gauge of how fast I was running. This would have been helpful for motivation along the way.
  • Get to the race earlier – Arriving earlier would have allowed me to get to the front of the line. Unfortunately, since I forgot my headphones and went back home, I arrived just before the race started.
  • Pace myself with more serious runners – I’m assuming the more serious runners were at the front of the pack.  I could have paced myself with them. I definitely saw people walking and running back in the opposite direction as I was finishing up the last two miles of the race.
  • Train outside – I only ran on a treadmill. Running outside could have helped me get a better sense of my pace when I’m not on a treadmill and my strides are less restricted.
  • Dress better – I didn’t want to be cold so I layered up.  I could have given myself more flexibility with this, especially to remove layers as needed.
  • Preview the course – I had no sense of what the course would be like.  So I didn’t expect the incline after the first mile. Getting familiar with the course in advance and practicing on an incline would have helped.

Have you had to do something that you didn’t believe was possible? How did you overcome this? Do you still struggle with having the right mindset and believing you can achieve anything you want? I’d love to hear your story below!

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Create and Build: A Path To Fulfillment, Impact and Legacy

Why do you pursue projects, goals, dreams etc.? Do you do it for yourself? Do you do it for someone else? Is it for a cause?

We’re all faced with these questions at some point in time.  And the answers are very personal to each person.  We have our own reasons as to why we do certain things which are influenced by internal or external motivations.

This question crosses my mind occasionally as it relates to this site. Why do I have and maintain it? For me, the reason is two-fold:

I have and maintain this site for my intrinsic need to create and for my desire to make a positive impact on the world.

Create

I love to create. I love taking ideas and things I envision and bring them to life. It is amazing to see them in reality and alive. Whether it is art, blogging or other content creation, I’m motivated by the personal enjoyment of the work itself. This is what Teresa Amabile describes as the “Intrinsic Motivation Principle of Creativity.” The process brings me gratification because it supports my unrelenting need to express myself. As someone who is creative, a visionary and an explorer, I appreciate art for art’s sake.

Build

I want to make a positive impact on the lives of others. To that end, this motivates me to continue to build this platform in hopes that the content resonates with others.  Even if one person benefits, I’ll be happy. What would be even better is if others continue to benefit for years to come.  This is what building a legacy is all about and I want to continue giving my time and expertise to help others.

There’s a lot of work left to do but taking the initial steps is key.  And that is the hard part.  The start trips most people up. Fear, doubt, being overwhelmed etc. all cause hesitation and slow down or even halt the start. As Gretchen Rubin shared on The Chase Jarvis LIVE Podcast, it is best to focus on the very next step.  This helps to alleviate the feeling of being overwhelmed and boosts your confidence when you know you have one, small step to take. Ultimately, all the small steps contribute to your overall goal.

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What about you? How are you bridging the gap between what you like to do and your long-term goals? Do you share things that are meaningful to you with others? Have you taken steps to build your legacy?

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Be-Do-Have: A Simple Process To Design The Life You Want

No one likes rules and being told what to do. So when society imposes how things should be in life, we resist. One expected life path is to get a good education, get a good job, buy a house, have a family and live happily ever after.

You don’t have to subscribe to this. Instead, you can make your own choices, take responsibility for your life and design it as you wish.

You can make your own choices, take responsibility for your life and design it as you wish.

If you were to design your life and future, how would you do it? What would your ideal life look like? What things would you include? What would you exclude?

This is an overwhelming decision and you can get stuck here. When you have all the choices in the world, it is harder to make one.  For example, there is little to debate about when you have one shirt in your closet but when you have fifteen to choose from, the process is more complicated. When presented with too many choices, instead of making one and following through with the relevant actions, you make no choice and remain stagnant. This is frustrating.

How can you overcome this?

One approach I’ve learned is Be-Do-Have.

You may think that you need to first “have” certain things (money, love, experience, time, etc.) in order to “do” something meaningful (pursue your dreams, start a business, travel the world, foster a relationship etc.) which will then allow you to “be” what you want to be in life (happy, fulfilled, successful, in love, etc.).  However, the Be-Do-Have approach tells us this works the other way around.

First you have to “be” what you want (loving, kind, open, successful etc.), then you “do” things from that place of being and then you’ll see that what you are doing will bring you the things you’ve always wanted to “have.”
This way of approaching the process allows you to work with the creative power of the universe. It is powerful and life-changing when you get it and practice it. This process simplifies the journey to make our dreams and goals a reality.  Your current circumstance is a product of your past thinking. You can take responsibility of this and change your future and life by changing your thinking.

And, when you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it. — Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist

Why does this work?

Think of someone you know who wants more money, time, flexibility, love, etc. to be happy.  On the other hand, someone who is happy right now has all the money, time, flexibility and love to last a lifetime. You can discover that you have everything you need to “be happy” by “being happy” right now.  Deciding what you choose to be in advance creates that in your experiences. Start by acting like you are what you want to be and you will become that. However your actions need to be aligned so what you “do” is important.

Remember that you have the power to experience any state of being at any time, not just when things to work out perfectly or after you achieve certain things. Attaching your fulfillment or other desired state of being to a specific goal, dream or achievement can set you up for disappointment, failure and pain.

Who you are and how you’re “being” creates the context for how you feel, think and act, which are key components of how you create your reality. The process to living the life you want doesn’t have to be that of suffering and struggle. Instead, you can focus your efforts to get abundant results.  Remember that happiness is a choice. It isn’t a chase.

Happiness is a state of mind. And like all states of mind, it reproduces itself in physical form. — Neale Donald Walsch

Here are some reminders of how to take the process of creating the life you want into your own hands:
  • Think of what you want to “have” in life. What are your key goals or dreams? What do you want to achieve?
  • How would you “be” if you had those things? Happy? Joyful? Fulfilled? Free?
  • Start to embody that state of being that you imagine will come from obtaining these goals, dreams and achievements. Start “being” happy as if you’ve already accomplished your goals.
  • From this state of being, think and talk about the actions you need to take.  Take these actions.

“Begin with the end in mind. Start with the end outcome and work backwards to make your dream possible.” — Wayne W. Dyer

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Do you spend a lot of time thinking about your current circumstance? Do you think back on the decisions you made and how they led to where you are today?  Do you have a hard time thinking about next steps to make changes and end up taking no action? I’d love for you to try the Be-Do-Have approach and hear how it works for you!

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Six Ways To Manage Your Multiple Interests

Are you a multipotentialite? If so, then you know that having multiple interests adds variety and meaning to each day.  These interests can range from music, interior design projects, a stamp collection, history or photography.  Multiple interests aren’t just for the artsy types. Anyone can have multiple interests including people with traditional careers such as doctors, lawyers or engineers.  It is just a matter of recognizing these interests and finding a way to incorporate them in your life.

So how do you make that happen? Being true to yourself and ensuring these interest are present in your life can be challenging. Here are some considerations and strategies to get the fulfillment you need:

1. Manage and prioritize your time.  This is key if your interests aren’t part of your day-to-day via a career, job, vocation etc.  Make sure to prioritize time for yourself that will allow you to pursue your interests.  For example, you may need to pass on the impromptu happy hour after work if that means missing your painting class.

2. Schedule your interests. If you have multiple interests, you can allocate time for each during the course of the week. Schedule time on Monday for running, on Tuesday for tutoring and on Wednesday for learning French.  A predictable cadence will help keep you accountable.  Set up reminders if you need to!

3. Designate different locations. If you’re transitioning from one interest to another, it helps to change your location. This will help you mentally prepare so when you step into the garage, your brain knows you’re getting ready to build the bookshelf.

4. Involve others. Your interests are personal but depending on what they are, you may be able to do them with others or with an organization that has the same focus. For example, you can learn Spanish alone or you can participate in a weekly coffee hour on Saturdays to practice with others.

5. Distinguish been fleeting and long-term interests. You’ll outgrow some interests and that’s OK. Others will be intrinsic to who you are, last a lifetime, and lead to greater opportunities. Learn to tell the difference between what’s a fad and long-lasting so you know when to pivot and where to devote more focus.

6. Be flexible. As things change, including your list of interests, be adaptable and flexible.  The more you learn and discover, new interests will come your way and you’ll want to have enough space to explore them.

Exploring multiple interests is possible when you manage your time effectively and get organized.  Prioritize designated time as you do with anything else that is important to you. Jim Rohn said it best:

If you really want to do something, you‘ll find a way. If you don’t, you‘ll find an excuse.

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Are you a multipotentialite? How do you manage your multiple interests?  Do you use different strategies than the suggestions above?  I’d love to hear from you in the comments below!

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